I’m Sorry

I'm sorry.I try to keep my personal life, well, personal. It doesn’t receive air time on this blog unless it can be tied to whatever point I’m trying to make. I also know that if I want this blog to be a part of my business and marketing strategies that I need to keep things professional.

That being said, all I’ve wanted to do for the past two weeks or so is issue a public apology to the person I unfriended a few weeks ago. Doing so might seem silly to some people, especially the people who said I didn’t need to explain my actions before enacting the unfriending. I shouldn’t have listened to those people. I forgot one of the cardinal principles by which I attempt to live: love your neighbor as yourself. If a person with whom I had or have a relationship wanted to unfriend me, I would want to know why. I would be hurt to be cut off without a single word.

Although I can’t state the “why” here – that is too personal and is between me and my now unfriended person – I can make my apology. I know that this person probably never will read it. I don’t even know if my private apology was read or accepted. I probably never will, and I’m going to have to learn to live with the reality of an unfinished chapter.

I know I might be worrying about nothing, but I still feel a responsibility. My heart hurts about what I did and how I did it and the pain I might have caused. I need to own the mistake I made so that I can learn from it and, I hope, not repeat it. I need to be responsible for my words and actions as well as the lack of them. Without further ado, my apology:

I’m sorry. I was wrong. I should have told you why I was unfriending you before I did it. The explanation probably wouldn’t have changed anything, but you deserved better. I took the cowardly route and somehow convinced myself that I was doing the right thing. I should have been braver. I wish I had been stronger and had told you why I was doing what I was doing. My silence was inexcusable. I’m so, so very sorry. Please forgive me.

Comments

  1. A very personal issue, but one that I know I have grappled with, too. Having been on the receiving end of a de-friending without explanation, yes, it can hurt. But I have also had to eliminate some people from my life for various reasons, and neither regret my choice, nor feel the desire to apologize. Be easy on yourself- I am sure you have your reasons.

  2. I’m sorry to hear about the un-friending. I think it’s hard these days to keep personal matters private with the advent of social media. Personally, I still try to keep a layer between my social media presence and my personal life for this very issue. I have learned over time that these things do tend to blow over no matter how large it seems presently, so take heart in that and good luck.

    •  @richescorner Thank you for the well wishes.
       
      I try to do the same. It’s why I don’t talk about people – except perhaps my brothers – on my blog, and why I don’t air things online – not even on my personal profile. Words have a way of getting away from you. This particular incident just needed a little more space or something. Maybe it shouldn’t have received space here, but the deed’s been done.

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